Modesty is a topic that I have been thinking about a lot lately and it can be a controversial one. I looked closely at what modesty means and I found two definitions that I liked.
Modesty is the quality of not talking about or not trying to make people notice your abilities and achievements.
Modesty can also be defined as the quality of not being too proud or confident about yourself or your abilities.
From the definitions above being modest does not require you to let people know of your abilities or skills but people around you will be able to see without you having to mention anything. People have different views on modesty and I believe that there is no one definition that is correct. Modesty does not look the same to everyone as we are all different and see things differently.
When it comes to us women one thing to keep in mind when it comes to modesty is that we are children of the King of kings and that makes us princesses, it makes us royalty. I am yet to see a scruffy, untamed princess and I am yet to see half naked one. They carry themselves in a way that represents the family and as Christians you must also be representing your Father who is the King of kings.
What comes to most people’s minds when the word modesty is mentioned are the words boring, bland and plain just to mention a few. This is not true at all but it is society that praises showing skin and this is considered normal and no one seems to give much thought to it. Almost every women and men want to be regarded as sexy and being sexy and modest are never in the same sentence or spoken in a way that they relate to each other.
Being sexy is the in thing and people will go to any length just to be called sexy even if it means walking half naked. People are always watching and they see how you dress first before they even get the chance to know you. This is sad in a way because maybe you are really a nice person and you love God but in most cases, we do not the chance to explain ourselves but it is what it is. A person will see you half-naked today and tomorrow you come telling them about Christ and they will not take you serious. You will have ruined your witness, someone you could have led to Christ.
We must be careful of the message that we send out by what we wear and our actions. At the same time, I do not agree with the notion that Christians must dress a certain way and people are judged by what they wear. I believe as a Christians the Holy Spirit can instruct us and help us in this area. There is no typical guideline on what a person is supposed to wear however we also must be considerate and how what we wear affects the people around us whether it be good or bad. Honoring God with what we wear is part of being modest and this will provide a clear guide line as what to wear.
God is the creator of the universe and He is the most creative being ever. Look closely at creation, look at the birds and butterflies they have beautiful patterns and color and it is God who created all this. He will teach you and show how to still look good and be modest at the same time. You do not have wear a curtain to be considered modest and you can learn from others as well.
When someone says, you are beautiful they may be meaning external beauty but I want people to see my inner beauty. I want people to see me for me and experience the love God through me. When people look at me I want them to see Christ through me, I want them to see me change for the better as I start to reflect Christ in the way I speak, live my life, interact with others and in all areas of my life. I want it to be clear that it can only be God’s hand at work in my life and I am not perfect and I still have a lot to work on but God’s love must be reflected in all I do.
You are not what you wear. An example will be if I drop my jacket its Tineruvimbo’s jacket and this brings about the question who is Tineruvimbo? who are you? You are not even your body, you are a spirit. As a woman, you are not defined by what you wear, the focus must be on beautifying the inner man and this is not to say have no regard for what you wear. The Holy Spirit comes to our aid in this area, there are somethings that personally I cannot wear out of the house the Holy Spirit will simply not let me. Most of the time I will be uncomfortable and I will end up changing. If you listen closely you will be able to hear Him and at times, it’s a gut feeling please listen to it.
Finally, do not compromise yourself by wanting to be regarded as stylish or trendy. Stay true to yourself regardless of what comes in fashion. Represent the King, dress act like Prince or Princess.
Be modest in all you do.